Changing perspective

Something I have been curious about for a while is whether Spirit is always speaking to us and we just don't see it or hear it because we are, in a way, blinded due to our perspective. I don't know the answer; this blog is just speculation. What got me thinking is that some spiritual teachers say that guidance is given from the subtle realm or from God or from the angels the moment we ask for it. However, in my case, it seems I have often been unable to see or receive the guidance, and looking back, when I finally did get the message, it was because I was looking at things in totally the wrong way, and my thinking, my perspective, was a lock that I was stuck inside.

Let me give an example. I was speaking to a friend last week, and she was telling me that she is finally over her ex-boyfriend, whom I know well. She said that it took her several months to realize that he was not the one for her, and to give up her fixation that she needed him to be happy and to have a successful relationship with. It was her egoic idea that she had to have him, and by holding onto (by holding onto, I mean identified with that viewpoint and unable to separate from it), all she saw was a world limited to relationship with that person. From that fixation, she was unable to open to other possibilities that may have been presenting themselves to her. Now, she has let go of that perspective and sees life as an abundant place of opportunity for many types of relationships. The closure was her mind, and through letting go, she opened up. She found happiness through relaxing. The freedom is in letting go. I want to say that again. The freedom is in letting go. The more you let go, the freeer you are, and I mean letting go of everything; of money, of power, of your body, of your thinking; a radical release of consciousness from the world of form.

I was noticing this process in me this week. There is someone I am beginning to like, and in the past, I may have emotionally exhausted myself from trying to be liked or trying to get this person. Now, I notice the contraction to be with the girl, and I let it be there, and I open again to the world around me. I open, as much as I consciously can, to life presenting itself in all its forms and shapes. By not feeding that grasping contraction with any attention or repression, it just dissapears. The freedom is letting go. My path now, finally, is one of relaxation and surrender, as contrasted to my previous hell of fearful grasping and trying to hold on.

Life is difficult when all you know is the known, and you try to hold on. There are terrifying abysses of surrender that need to be fallen into it, and the notion of letting go and trusting the unknown is horrendous when you lack faith and trust in spirit and the goodness of life itself. Until you know how to let go and surrender to life, until you know how to unconditionally relax your grip on how life should be and your role in determining its outcome, you will live a partial and blinded life. I did. I know everyone who has learned how to relax did before they learned to relax. And the funny thing is, the real secret to life is not about getting what you think you want. Its about being able to let go of what you think you want...and as Shakespeare would say..'Ay, and there's the rub.'

So, let go. The freedom is in letting go. Are you brave enough to do that? I you have nothing, what are you? Great question. And if you really know how to let go, then perhaps you can open to guidance from the world and from you intuition.